Chapter 1: The Blessing of A Child


1. A child is a blessing from Allah. 
  • Allah سبحانه وتعالى says in the Holy Quran, Soorah An-Nahl, Ayah 72:

    وَاللَّهُ جَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا وَجَعَلَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَزْوَاجِكُم بَنِينَ وَحَفَدَةً وَرَزَقَكُم مِّنَ الطَّيِّبَاتِ ۚ

    And Allah has given you spouses from yourselves, and has granted you from your spouses children and grandchildren, and has provided for you [sustenance] of good things.

  • It was one of Allah’s سبحانه وتعالى  blessings that the Prophets عليهم السلام prayed for. They supplicated to Him asking to be blessed with this great favour. And when Allahسبحانه وتعالى  blessed them with a child, notice how Heسبحانه وتعالى  says that this news was a ‘good-tiding’. 
    • Ibraheem عليه السلام, in Soorah Saafaat, Ayah 100-101:

      رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ۞ فَبَشَّرْنَاهُ بِغُلَامٍ حَلِيمٍا۞ (القران الكريم)

      My Lord, grant me [a child[ from amongst the righteous. So we gave him good tidings of a forbearing son.

    • Zakareeyaa عليه السلام , in Soorah Maryam, Ayah 5:

      فَهَبْ لِي مِن لَّدُنكَ وَلِيًّا۞ (القران الكريم)

      So give me from Yourself an heir.

  • Allah سبحانه وتعالى says that those people who pray for good spouses and children will be rewarded with Jannah. He says in Soorah Furqan, Ayah 74-75:

وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا۞ أُولَٰئِكَ يُجْزَوْنَ الْغُرْفَةَ بِمَا صَبَرُوا وَيُلَقَّوْنَ فِيهَا تَحِيَّةً وَسَلَامًا۞ (القران الكريم)

And those who say, ” Our Lord, grant us from amongst our wives and offspring a comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous. Those will be awarded the Chamber for what they patiently endured, and they will be received therein with greetings of peace.

 

2. To have children is something that is highly encouraged in Islam. 

Aisha رضي الله عنها  said that the Prophet ﷺ said:

النكاح سنتي، فمن لم يعمل بسنتي ففليس مني. و تزوجوا فاني مكاثر بكم الامم  يوم القيامة

Marriage is a sunnah of mine, and whoever doesn’t follow my sunnah is not of my [followers]. And get married, because I will display your numbers outnumbering other nations on the Day of Judgement. [Ibn Majah, Al-Albani: saheeh]

  • Marriage is something greatly encouraged and children are the natural and expected outcome of this union.
    • Our biological drives fuels our desires.
    • We are encouraged to curb this desire through marriage.
  • It is an increase for the number of people in this Ummah.

 

3. Good, righteous children...not just numbers.
  • A good spouse is of paramount importance. Choosing a pious husband or wife is one of the main steps towards this.

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه  said that the Prophet ﷺ said: “A woman may be married for 4 things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust.”

[Bukhaari 4802, Muslim 1466]

  • Making du’a…plenty and plenty of supplication to Allah. Asking Allah to guide and protect our children is one of the few things a parent can do in this regards; long before the child is born or even conceived much less after their birth.
    • The ayah we previously mentioned in Soorah Furqaan, Ayah 74-75 tells us that praying for pious children leads to Jannah.
    • The Prophets عليهم السلامand pious people mentioned in the Quran made many du’as, for their children
      • to be from amongst the righteous. [Saafaat, Ayah 100]

        رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ۞ (القران الكريم)

        My Lord, grant me [a child[ from amongst the righteous.

      • for Allah to be pleased with them. [Maryam, Ayah 6]

         وَاجْعَلْهُ رَبِّ رَضِيًّا۞ (القران الكريم)

        And make him, My Lord, pleasing [to You].

      • for Allah to protect the child. This was Hannah, the mother of Maryam’s du’a for her unborn child. [Al-Imran, Ayah 36]

        وَإِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ۞ (القران الكريم)

        And I seek refuge for her in You, and [for] her descendants from Shaitaan [Satan], the expelled.

 

 4. There are many prescribed du’as and sunnahs that the Prophet taught us to protect our children.

  • The sunnah of the husband leading his wife in two rak’ah of salaah after their nikaah (marriage).
  • The du’a of the husband for his wife after their nikaah.

بسم الله. اللهم بارك لي في. اللهم إني أسألك من خيرها وخير ما جبلتها عليه. و اعوذ بك من شرها و شر ما جبلتها عليه

In the Name of Allah. Oh Allah, bless her for me. Oh Allah, I ask you to grant me of her good, and the good upon which You created her. And I ask you to protect me from her evil and any eveil upon which You created her.

  • The du’a to be read by a husband and wife before sexual intercourse.

بسم الله. اللهم جنبنا الشيطان وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا

 In the Name of Allah. Oh Allah, Keep Shaitaan away from us, and keep Shaitaan away from whatever You grant us [offspring].

 Ibn Abbasرضي الله عنه  said that the Prophet ﷺ said: “When one of you wants to approach his wife and says [the dua], if it is then decreed that they have child, Shaitaan will never harm it.” [Bukhaari and Muslim]. Imagine that from the Mercy of Allah, we have been given a way to protect our children from the evils and whisperings of Shaitaan from the moment they are conceived!

 

5. Children are the source of many rewards for their parents. 
  • A child is one of only 3 things that can benefit a Muslim woman or man and continue to increase their reward after they have died.

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه  said that the Prophet ﷺ said:

اذا مات الانسان، انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: صدقة جارية، او علم ينتفع به، أو ولد صالح يدعوا له

When a human being dies, his deeds come to an end except 3 things: an ongoing charity, or beneficial knowledge, or a righteous child supplicating for him. [Muslim]

  • Even if the children who die before reaching puberty, they will be a way for their parents to enter Jannah.

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه  said that the Prophet ﷺ said:

 صغارهم دعاميص الجنة. يتلقى احدهم اباه فياخذ بناحية ثوبه او يده، كما اخذ انا بصنفة ثوبك هذا، فلا يتناهى حتى يدخله الله و اباه الجنة

Their young ones [who die] are the free-roamers of Jannah. When one of them meets its parents, it holds onto the edge of their garment like I hold your garment. And does not desist until Allah admits it with its parents into Jannah.        [Muslim, Ahmad]