Chapter 12: Other Baby Issues
The urine of a baby has specific Islamic rulings in regards to being impure (najis).
Ali رضي الله عنه narrated that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
بول الغلام الرضيع ينضح، وبول الجارية يغسل
The urine of a breastfeeding baby boy is sprayed and the urine of a baby girl is washed. [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, al-Albaani: saheeh]
- A baby boy whose main food is breast milk: Sprinkling the clothing, carpet, etc with water is sufficient.
- A baby girl: In any scenario the urine must be thoroughly washed away.
-Once breast milk is not the main food, the urine of the baby boy must also be washed.
-Feces for boys or girls must be washed away in all scenarios.
Babies are welcome with the caregiver or at the masjid, etc during salaah.
- A baby can be carried during salaah by its parent or someone else.
Abu Qataadah رضي الله عنه reported that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم carried his granddaughter Umamah bint Zaynab on his shoulder while leading Salaah. When he stood, he held her. And when he prostrated, he set her down. [Bukhaari and Muslim]
- Babies and children are welcome in the masjid, including during salaah.
We see many authentic reports where the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم had his grandkids with him. (Some are mentioned above and below.)
- Even if the child is playing, etc, they are welcome at the masjid.
Abdullah bin Shaddad رضي الله عنه narrated that his father said:
“The Messenger of Allah came out to us for one of the evening prayers (Maghrib or ‘Isha’), carrying Hasan or Husayn. The Messenger of Allah came forward, put the child down and said Takbeer to start the prayer. Then he prostrated during the prayer and his prostration lasted for a long time. My father said: I raised my head and saw the child on the back of the Messenger of Allah, so I went back to my prostration. When the Messenger of Allah finished praying, the people said to him: ‘O Messenger of Allah, during your prayer you prostrated and it took a long time, until we thought that something had happened, or that you were receiving Revelation.’ He said, ‘Nothing happened, but my son was riding on my back and I did not want to hurry him up until he had had enough.’”
Imagine this, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was leading the entire congregation and he kept them waiting in salaah so that his grandchild could finish playing!
- Even the crying children are welcome. Rather than rebuke the parents, the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم set the example for the imams to adjust the length of their salaah accordingly.
Abu Qataadah رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
اني لا ادخل في الصلاة فاريد اطالتها، فاسمع بكاء الصبي فاتجوز في صلاتي مما اعلم من وجد امه من بكائه
I would start the Salah intending to prolong it. Then I hear the crying of a child so I shorten the salaah knowing the state of his mother due to his crying. [Bukhaari and Muslim]
Cleaning a baby and touching its private areas in the process does NOT break wudhoo according to the most correct scholarly opinion.
- Why not? Because there is no conclusive evidence that it does.
- There are two relevant hadiths:
1.Busra bint Safwan رضي الله عنها narrated that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
اذا مس احدكم ذكره فليتوضا
If one of you touches his penis, then let him make wudoo. [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, al-Albaani: saheeh]
2.Talq bin Ali رضي الله عنه reported that a man ask the Prophet ﷺ about touching his penis after making wudoo. The Prophet ﷺ said:
وهل الا بضعة (او مضغة) منه
And is it not except a piece of flesh from him? [Abu Dawood, Tirmidhee, al-Albaani: saheeh]
- al-Albaani reconciled the two hadiths by explaining that touching one’s own private area thereby breaking one’s wudoo is referring to touching with lust.
As for comparing the touching a baby’s private areas while cleaning or taking care of him or her, he further added that these are two different scenarios and an analogy cannot be made.
In conclusion, while the scholars do differ on the issue, the most correct scholarly opinion appears to be that the necessary touching of a child’s private areas does not break wudoo.
Piercing the ears of a girl is allowed in order to wear jewellery.
- There are several hadiths where the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم acknowledged that his female companions wore jewellery including earrings and he did not stop them, rebuke them, or frown upon the custom.
Zaynab bint Nabit رضي الله عنها said:
“Abu Umamah requested that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم give some jewellery (from war) to my mother and aunt. Later on some jewellery was brought before the Prophet including earrings made of gold and pearls. The Prophet gave them some…” [Ibn Saad, al-Bayhaqi]
-The scholars, however, warn against copying the non-Muslims in piercing other parts of the body. This is not allowed.
-Similarly, it is not allowed for boys to pierce any part of their body in any scenario.
Showing love to your children and kissing them is part of being a good Muslim parent and following the Sunnah.
- The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم set the example for the Muslims in dealing with children by being kind and gentle with them. He was often seen rubbing their head, holding them, playing with them, kissing them, and making dua for them.
Aaisha رضي الله عنها said that some Bedouins asked the Prophet’s companions: Do you kiss your children? They said: Yes! The Bedouins said, By Allah, we never kiss them. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم then said:
او املك لكم إن نزع الله من قلوبكم الرحمة
What can I do for you if Allah has removed from your hearts Mercy? [Bukhaari and Muslim]
- There was no shyness or aversion from displaying affection towards the children in the sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ. The children were guided and advised as well as loved and played with.