Chapter 11: Keeping our Homes Halal
The environment around our children has a huge effect on them.
- Certain things are a deterrent for the acceptance of our duas, ruqyahs, etc
- Some things encourage and welcome evil and the shaitaan into our homes.
- To protect our children, we must do more than just ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى for help.
We must also show our love and submission to Him by obeying His commands.
The presence of life-like objects and images resembling humans and animals stops the angels from entering our homes.
- Ali رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
ان الملائكه لاتدخل بيتا فيه كلب او صورة
Indeed the angels do not enter a home that has a dog or images. [Bukhaari, Muslim]
- The angels avoiding our home deprives us of their help and protection.
It provides a huge opportunity for the shaitaan to affect us.
- Today, life-like toys (Barbies, etc), clothing with images (animals, superhero men, etc) and decorations (posters, etc) fill the rooms of children.
We must take care to only surround them with those toys and things that are allowed.
NOTE: Toys that do not fully have life-like features are allowed. For example, certain cloth dolls that do not resemble human beings.
-Aaisha رضي الله عنها said:
I used to play with dolls and some of my female friend used to come play with me. [Bukhaari, Muslim]
-Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
الصورة الراس. فاذا قطع الراس، فلا صورة
The image is the head. If you remove the head, there is no image. [Al-Ismaili, al-Albaani: saheeh]
Music has also become a common occurrence. But it is a serious sin in Islam earning Allah's سبحانه وتعالى
- Abu Maalik al-Ashari رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
Among my ummah, there will surely be people who permit zina, silk, alcohol, and musical instruments. [Bukhaari, al-Albaani: saheeh]
- The scholars agree that musical instruments are forbidden.
Beware of it in toys, etc that the kids are given to play with.
Bells and ringing are also prohibited in Islam.
Aaisha رضي الله عنها said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
لا تدخل الملائكة بيتا فيه جرس
The angels do not enter a home that has bells. [Abu Dawood, al-Albaani: saheeh]
Television and the internet are sources of many haraam things entering the household which are otherwise not allowed.
- obscene or mature scenes
- foul language
- concepts that are contrary to Islam
Children are at an age when they are the most impressionable and affected by these things.
The celebration of birthdays is not an Islamic practice, but it has become a huge part of the Muslims lives.
- It makes an Eid/celebration on a day that was not designated as such.
Anas رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
قدمت عليكم ولكم يومان تلعبون فيهما في الجاهلية. وقد ابدلكم الله بهما خيرا منهما يوم النحر ويوم الفطر
You had two days in which you use to celebrate during jahiliyyah. And indeed Allah changed them to 2 better days: Eid-ul-Fitr and Eid-ul-Adha. [Ahmad, Abu Dawood, al-Albaani: saheeh]
- It is an imitation of the non-Muslims and their practices.
-Ibn Umar رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
من تشبه بقوم فهو منهم
Whoever imitates a people then he is from them. [Abu Dawood, at-Tabaraani, al-Albaani: saheeh]
-Abu Saeed al-Khudri رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
لتتبعن سنن من كان قبلكم شبرا شبرا و ذراعا بذراع حتى لو دخلوا جحر الصبه تبعتموهم
You will follow the ways of those before you hand span by hand span, cubit by cubit, to the extent that if they entered the hole of a lizard you would enter it too. [Bukhaari 1397, Muslim 4822]
The source of our income and livelihood has a direct effect on the acceptance off the duas that we make.
Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
،ان الله طيب لا يقبل الا طيبا…ثم ذكر الرجل، يطيل السفر اشعث، اغبر، يمد يديه الى السماء ‘يا رب يا رب’, ومطعمه حرام ومشربه حرام وملبسه حرام وغذي بالحرام فانى يستجاب له
Indeed Allah is good and He does not accept except good… Then he (the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم) mentioned a man on a long journey, dishevelled and dusty, extended his arms to the heavens saying ‘oh Lord, oh Lord.’ While his food is Haraam and his drink is Haraam and his clothes is Haraam and he has been nourished with Haraam. So how can he (his duas) be answered? [Muslim 1015]
From this Hadith, we see that a person’s sustenance must be halal/ permissible. What they eat, what they drink, and what they wear should always be halal in and of itself as well as it should be the result of a halal livelihood/ work and income.
If it is not all halal, then the acceptance of their duas is placed in question.