Chapter 10: Protecting our Children
Envy and the evil eye are real afflictions from amongst the evil things that Allahسبحانه وتعالى
- The evil eye is a form of envy. When an envious person sees something he or she admires, it causes immediate harm.
Ibn Abbas رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
The evil eye is real. [Muslim, Ahmad, Tirmidhee; al-Albaani: saheeh]
Children are especially affected by the evil eye.
- The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم sought protection for the children from it.
Abdullah in Abbas رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم recited this Dua of Ibrahimعليه السلام for his grandkids Hasan and Hussain:
اعيذكما بكلمات الله التامة من كل شيطان وهامة ومن كل عين لأمة
I shelter both of you with Allah’s complete words from every devil and harmful creature and from every envious eye. [Bukhaari]
- The mother of Maryam عليها السلام asked Allah سبحانه وتعالى to protect her baby when she was pregnant.
إِنِّي أُعِيذُهَا بِكَ وَذُرِّيَّتَهَا مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ
I seek refuge for her in You and for her descendants, from Shaitaan, the Cursed.
[Sorrah Imraan, Ayah 36]
- The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم encouraged the Muslims to protect their kids from it.
Aaisha رضي الله عنها said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم once heard a child crying, and said:
ما لصبيكم هذا يبكي؟ فهل استرقيتم له من العين؟
Why is your child crying? Have you done ruqyah for him from the evil eye? [Ahmad, al-Albaani: saheeh]
What is Ruqyah? Ruqya is words in the form of Quran, duas, or dhikr for protection from evil or a cure from it. It may include actions like wiping or blowing on the body.
- What are the criteria of a proper ruqyah?
1.It must use Allah’s words or His Name.
2.It must be in Arabic or of intelligible meaning.
3.It must not be believed to have power in and of itself.
The best form of ruqyah is that which was mentioned in the sunnah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم. Some of those that he taught us are as follows:
- Soorah al-Faatihah
- Ayat-ul-Kursi [Soorah Baqarah, Ayah 255]
- Soorah Ikhlaas, Falaq, and Naas.
Khubayb رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told him:
قل ‘قل هو الله احد’ والمعوذتين حين تمسي و حين تصبح ثلاث مرات تكفيك كل شيء
Say (Soorah Ikhlaas) and (Soorahs Falaq and Naas) in the evening and in the morning three times and it will protect you from everything. [Abu Dawud, Tirmidhee, Al-Albaani: saheeh]
- The dua the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم recited for his grandkids (mentioned above).
- The dua of the mother of Maryam عليها السلام for her unborn child (mentioned above).
- This dua that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم learnt from Jibreel , عليه السلام as reported by Abu Saeed al-Khudri رضي الله عنه:
بسم الله ارقيك, من كل شيء يؤذيك، من شر كل نفس او عين حاسد الله يشفيك. بسم الله ارقيك
With Allah’s Name I shelter you, from all that ails you, from the evil of any soul, and that of the envious eye. May Allah cure you. With Allah’s Name I shelter you. [Muslim]
- This dua, as reported by Uthmaan bin Affaan رضي الله عنه that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
ما من عبد يقول في صباح كل يوم ومساء كل ليله “بسم الله الذي لا يضر مع اسمه شيء في الارض ولا في السماء وهو السميع العليم” ثلاث مرات يضره شيء
Nothing can harm a servant who says three times every morning and evening: “I shelter myself with the Name of Allah, the One with whose name has nothing can cause harm on Earth or in the heavens. He is the Hearer, the Knower. [Abu Dawood, Tirmidhee, Al-Albaani: saheeh]
Forbidden forms of protection: there are many things that are practiced amongst the Muslims that are strictly forbidden in Islam.
- The use of amulets, charms, tabeej,
Ibn Masud رضى الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
ان الرقى والتمائم والتوالة شرك
(Incorrect) ruqyah, amulets and love charms are shirk. [Abu Dawood, Tirmidhee, Al-Albaani: saheeh]
-The use of beads, black marks, horseshoes, etc hung on or around the baby or other places.
-The use of written incantations, nonsense, words directed at the jinns, etc
NOTE: These are all forms of shirk and should be avoided at all costs.
- Hanging Quranic ayahs and duas on necklaces, etc
Abu Mabid Abdullah in Ukayn رضي الله عنه said that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
من تعلق بشيء وكل إليه
Whoever hangs something (for protection) will be yielded to it. [Abu Dawood, Tirmidhee, Al-Albaani: hasan]
-Papers with ayahs or duas written on it that are folded and placed in necklace pendants.
-Jewellery with ayahs or duas engraved on it worn by the child or other people.
NOTE: This practice is not allowed. The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم taught us to use the duas and ayahs for protection through recitation.
The scholars say it may be a form of shirk because the thing itself (paper, jewellery, etc) is seen to offer protection.
Saying the duas on behalf of the child.
Sometimes, you will see parents, etc reading the duas on behalf of the child. For example, they will recite the dua to sleep for the child and blow on him/her.
This was not a practice of the sahabahs or the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم. Rather, we were given an authentic alternative in the sunnah: reciting specific duas to ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى to protect the child.
NOTE: This does not apply to repeating the adhkaar and duas when a child is older as a form of teaching. Rather, it is encouraged to have the child listen to you recite the adhkaars and duas and to have them try and repeat it as this is how they will learn.